Why Pronouns?

What are personal pronouns and why do they matter?

We often use pronouns without thinking about it, such as ‘he’ for a man or ‘she’ for a woman. However, these pronouns don’t always fit everyone.

Using the correct pronouns is a simple way to show respect, much like calling someone by their name. Making assumptions based on someone’s name or appearance can be inconsiderate and distressing. Instead of assuming, it’s good practice to share your own pronouns and, if appropriate, politely ask someone what theirs are. It’s also important to recognise that not everyone may feel comfortable sharing their pronouns, and that’s perfectly okay—respecting each person’s comfort level helps create an environment where everyone feels safe and valued. By using and respecting the pronouns people share, we actively foster a space where all individuals, including transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming people, feel comfortable and accepted.

When we talk about ‘personal’ pronouns, we’re referring to the ones that people use to identify themselves and are an important part of how we want to be seen. At Satellite, we believe making pronoun-sharing a regular part of conversations—whether at work, school, or in social settings—helps build a culture of empathy and respect. When we share and use pronouns thoughtfully, we show that we recognise and value each person for who they are.

How do we use pronouns?

Pronouns are used based on whether you’re referring to yourself, addressing someone, or talking about someone else. Here are some examples:

• First person pronouns (referring to yourself): 
  “I love to paint and especially like using watercolours. It’s my favourite way to express myself.”
• Second person pronouns (referring to the person you’re talking to): 
  “You love to paint and especially like using watercolours. It’s your favourite way to express yourself.”
• Third person pronouns (referring to someone else): 
  These vary depending on the person’s preferences.
  “She loves to paint. It’s her favourite way to express herself.”
  “He loves to paint. It’s his favourite way to express himself.”
  “They love to paint. It’s their favourite way to express themself.”

When using pronouns, always refer to others the way they wish to be addressed.

Where can I learn more?

We’ve compiled this article by exploring a variety of resources. Below is a small, though not exhaustive, list of what we found most helpful—and you may find it useful too:

• Pride Training
• Transhub
• Pronouns.org
  
• Minus 18: A Guide to Pronouns
• YACVIC: Pronoun rounds, houseplants, and other ways to avoid misgendering a colleague

This resource has been written by Satellite’s Diversity, Equity and Inclusion working group with contributions from the Youth Advisory Council.

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